Finding Support In A Backward World

Sometimes our courage rusts and almost without knowing how we put on the soles of discouragement.  It is then when we need more support and we find more backs. Until suddenly, someone says those magic words capable of healing:  “I’m here, with you”, “everything will be fine, don’t worry.”

Support is that primordial value that goes beyond simple social awareness or solidarity with our fellow men. To support is to correspond with affection, it is to materialize our empathy in the form of help, to support in emotions and in those actions where authentic affection is inscribed, the most complicit, the most upright.

It’s funny how we all, somehow, see ourselves as strong and impregnable creatures in our golden armor. However, every warrior is defeated at some time, and by asking for help we will not be weaker: we all appreciate a helping hand in times of adversity.

Emotional support, sincere language of the heart

Support is sometimes a language that speaks different languages. There are those who do not know how to ask for it, who keep quiet, hide and move forward with a broken soul and a mind inhabited by despair. Others, on the other hand, do not know how to give it and limit themselves to offering those patches of rigor where the “that’s nothing” or “it’s that you worry too much” fills their mouths to try to look good and finish as soon as possible.

Emotional support must speak the same language as the heart of the person in need. It is necessary to “tune in” and for this, two basic dimensions must appear: the sincere desire to connect with whoever is in front of us and to have the adequate capacity to know how to offer that help, that comfort, that closeness.

In a world already inhabited by too many backs, we must get used to looking people face to face. Our children crave that daily support that is sometimes nurtured simply by “being there” and showing them that they are unique, special and wonderful. Support is also the quality of providing light when someone has fallen into their own darkness …

Supporting the person we love requires a subtle but profound wisdom that we should all promote and put into practice. We offer you some simple strategies to reflect on.

• We have to be respectful of the emotions and feelings of the couple. Always choose an “I understand you, I’m here with you”  rather than a “that’s nothing.”

• Maintain physical contact, speak the language of caresses, hugs, take your partner’s hands when they speak to you and always confer sincere affection, a close and authentic empathy.

• Never make use of irony or teasing towards your partner  – however innocent they may seem to you –  neither in private nor even less in public.

• Never postpone a conversation, if the loved one wants to tell us something important, do not leave it for another time. The best time is always now.

The pleasure of knowing that you will always be there

In a society that is more used to turning away than hugs, it is necessary to begin to change consciences and learn that unique, wonderful and healing language as it is the one that confers support.

To support is above all to have the gift of lifting a person on our shoulders to place them on higher ground, so that from there, they are able to see other perspectives for themselves, other paths that allow them to get out of their difficulty. . Good support is what allows us to grow, not the one that humbles in a paternalistic way by reminding us of the mistakes made, the wounds suffered.

It is also a pleasure to know that we have those wise people who know how to be there when we need them, who do not ask for anything in return and who accept us fully, with our strengths and weaknesses, with our obsessions and defenselessness.

Also remember that it is not your beliefs that make you a better person, it is your actions. So if you have those people with sun in their hearts and fairy dust in their pockets, reciprocate. Support when they need it, accompany, attend and raise them very high so that they can also see over your shoulders, where their golden paths are. Those where new opportunities are inscribed in times of difficulty.