Persecuting Those Who Harm Us, A Way Of Condemning Ourselves To Unrest
When we leave our self-esteem adrift, in the hands of others or of those who enjoy controlling us and exerting power over us, we usually immerse ourselves in an infinite persecution to believe we can recover it. As if this gave us value … Although in reality, all we do is despise ourselves based on rejections and partial and conditional acceptances. Persecuting those who harm us, is therefore one of the many ways that exist of not loving us.
True love, both towards others and ourselves, is nothing other than the inevitable desire to help and help us to show our authenticity. Chasing those who harm us is a way of not finding ourselves, but of finding the other at all costs, forgetting ourselves to a certain extent.
When we are in a relationship and we realize that being able to avoid some suffering, the other does not, it is a clear indication that he does not care about us as we should … What happens is that, sometimes, we find ourselves so blinded that we do not We see how other people can manipulate us and take advantage of us for their benefit.
You are the only person who can stop it
When love really exists, caring for our partner is an inherent contract of the heart. Now, that’s not why we have to give blind without seeing if the other person corresponds to us. If we notice that our partner hurts us as a way to maintain the relationship, it is a good time to stop it, since only we can do it.
When the person with whom we share our lives makes us feel bad more often than it makes us feel good, we have to ask ourselves if that person contributes or takes away from us. From that answer we will obtain if in the end we want to share the rest of our life in that way.
Closing a stage in our life, saying goodbye to the one we love, even if it hurts us, is one of the most stormy and circular experiences that can occur in the world of emotions. It is already known that the most difficult thing is not the first kiss, but the last. But sometimes, that last kiss can be saving us from much more bittersweet.
When our partner hurts us continuously, the lack of self-worth may end up so deep inside us that we no longer know how to discern what we are from how bad they make us feel. Now, only oneself can stop the emotional pain, because once they begin to hurt us there is no other way than self-love.
Obsession, fear of being alone, hope or devotion?
A relationship can go wrong, you have to keep it in mind. And to get over it, the only way is to accept that it’s over. Otherwise, it will be very difficult to manage the situation and the damage will end up turning into obsession, fear, hope and even devotion.
Some psychologists have stated that heartbreak can be more painful than someone’s death. According to this theory, death has a grieving process that finally ends with acceptance. But, when the couple breaks up and there is no such acceptance, the suffering can last for a long period of time and may even never heal.
Obsessions, excessive fear of being alone and devotion are, ultimately, feelings that contain some underestimation of the own person and exaltation of the loved one. As an example, we leave you this poem by Hamlet Lima Quintana to reflect on:
