The Boomerang Effect
Of course, it is easier to live distributing blame and finding responsible (who is not us) for everything negative that happens to us. Loneliness, unhappiness, lack of money and all those shortcomings or conflicts that torment us. Sometimes it seems as if they are not dependent on us at all. Nothing more false. The truth is that we are the main cause of most of what happens to us.
Each of the actions we take has consequences. Some we can foresee, while others are not so clear. What is certain is that our actions have effects and that, with certainty, those effects will reach us in one way or another. That’s the basis of the boomerang effect: you will get back what you threw ; perhaps with another wrapping, or from an unexpected source, or at the least imagined moment, but you will receive it in any case.
Life is a reflection of actions
The good or bad in your life is a reflection of the way you act. What you lack or what you have left over is directly proportional to your actions. In a strict sense, chance, accidents or unforeseen events do not have the power to shape your life. They influence, of course, but only you are the one who gives situations a certain direction.
If you can’t control your anger, for example, you may find people who don’t respond to it, but they will soon walk away from you. No one with mental health tolerates having a madman around. Instead, your attitude will attract people who have characteristics similar to yours. When you least think about it, you will be surrounded by violent people and conflict will be the predominant note in your life. The Orientals say that “the similar seeks the similar.”
The same thing happens in the opposite direction. A story goes that a samurai was reputed to be the wisest in an ancient kingdom. Another samurai challenged him and they had a meeting in a public square. The challenger insulted him, threw stones at him and yelled defamations against him. But the sage remained immutable, until the other got tired. Those present then asked him how he had managed to remain impassive and the sage replied: “If someone offers you a gift and you do not accept it, who does the gift belong to?” “To the one who offers it,” they all responded. “Exactly,” said the sage. “We only make our own what we decide to accept. The anger, the insults, continue to belong to those who throw them, unless we choose to receive them ”.
Strategies for getting what you want
If you are not satisfied with what you receive in life, or in part of it, the first thing you should ask yourself is what you give to others. How are the seeds that you sow in each of the situations that you live daily? You must be objective in the answers you give yourself. Do not examine your intentions, but your concrete actions.
Then you must identify what you want to attract. If it is a good job, the only way to attract it is by performing your current job with excellence ; even if you don’t like it, or you think it’s not going to be of any use. Evaluate your skills and strengthen the points where you feel weak. Also examine your level of training and find a way to learn everything you need to perform better moving forward.
If what you want to attract is a stable and suitable partner, work towards being able to give love. Strengthen your values, increase the degree of respect for others, be more considerate. Value others, try to understand them and cultivate gestures of affection with those around you.
You should know that nothing comes to your door without you doing something to make it happen. Put fear aside and actively seek what you want so much. Inquire about new job possibilities, pay attention to what happens in the place where you want to work. Focus on what you want to achieve.
Remember that it is sown first, but you have to wait for a whole process to take place before harvesting. Don’t try to achieve what you want immediately. You must learn to wait and be patient, without losing sight of what you want to achieve. Perseverance is a jewel of great value that always, ALWAYS, pays off. The boomerang effect takes time. Wait a bit and you will receive back all that accumulation of positive wishes that you launched before.
Image courtesy of Ron Leishman
