The Energy That Our Relationships Give Off

The energy that our relationships give off determines us. We live in a world where we are infected by the emotions of others, where the magnetism of the gestures, words and movements of others can captivate or disturb us. Human beings are wired by those invisible fibers that condition us in many ways, but that we do not always perceive.

At first glance, these ideas may be as strange as they are fascinating. It should be said that in recent years, and with the progress in the study of emotions and kinesthesia, new fields of interest have appeared that deserve to be named. An example of this is the work on what is already known as “Body Intelligence” or body intelligence.

According to this theory,  people should be more aware of our internal energies, those that adhere to our body and that we do not always recognize.  Thus, when we speak of “energies” we refer above all to those emotional states that limit or expand us as human beings, and that in some way, we also project onto others.

Now, there is an interesting aspect that they point out to us from this theoretical perspective. Most of us do not know that we live in a world inhabited exclusively by these emotional, mental and bodily energy fields. Beyond the matter, beyond a work setting with its workers and furniture, beyond even a beautiful home with certain luxuries and comforts, there is a network of emotions that permeates everything …

The energy that our moods give off

Every cell, nerve fiber, neurological network, and every tissue in our body needs energy to function. Human beings are orchestrated by a whole network of impulses. It is there where our neurons communicate with each other, shaping certain electrical brain waves based on what we do, think or feel at every moment.

On the other hand, there is something that is more than evident. Our moods leave “imprints” on the scene in which we find ourselves. We were talking a moment ago about work settings and some homes. We have all noticed at some time how when crossing the threshold of a friend’s house or when starting a new job in a certain place, there is something imperceptible that makes us uncomfortable, that turns off our humor.

Emotions, and especially those that arise from stress, tension and anxiety are very easily contagious. Psychologists call it the “law of exchange”  and it is characterized by an alteration in our mental and emotional state caused by the attitude and emotional states of those around us. This emotional “temperature” can cause us more costs than benefits: physical exhaustion, low motivation, distorted thoughts, discomfort …

The energy that our relationships give off creates a certain atmosphere. Starting from how that energy field is (enriching or disabling) it will undoubtedly determine our well-being or our discomfort. Expert psychologists in this field tell us that the goal would be to work on the law of uniform energy exchange. That is, create an emotional reciprocity where we all benefit.

This objective is undoubtedly the most desirable in any work organization, in every family, relationship, school environment, etc. Now, to achieve this, we must start from ourselves, and that is where our bodily intelligence can also help us.

The energy that our relationships give off, keys to well-being

One thing we all want is to enjoy satisfying, fluid and meaningful relationships. However, sometimes we encounter certain frictions. Lately communication with our partner, children or coworkers may be a bit more complicated for us. It may be that in our daily tasks and actions we also perceive ourselves less productive, less creative even.

The energy that our relationships give off is not just limited to other people. Our relationship with work and with our physical or mental activity is also another dynamic that requires a lot of energy (motivation, interest, positive attitude …) Therefore, the idea is to use all our emotions and mental states in our favor to enjoy what what do we do. We also want to improve our personal relationships, positively impact others and create enriching energy environments.

Let’s see some keys.

Learn to understand your body to use energy to your advantage

• When you get up in the morning, become aware of how you feel. Body intelligence reminds us that many of our emotional states are somatized in our body: tensions, stomachaches or headaches, muscle pain …
• Keep in mind that this physical discomfort often ends up being projected in the style of our language and attitude ⇔ I wake up tired, I don’t feel like anything and I end up projecting it onto my partner by answering them badly or directing an inappropriate comment.
• The ideal is to become aware of this emotional state and find the root of the problem. It is not worth postponing it, it is not worth taking a painkiller and limiting ourselves to function because that emotion, that discomfort is still latent and can reduce the quality of our relationships.

• Change the pole of energy. It is very possible that as soon as we get up in the morning we will not have much time to carry out relaxation or stress management techniques. It is something that we should postpone but not neglect. Thus, and to change the flow of that internal negative energy, it would be advisable to apply simple strategies that promote rapid well-being :
  • A healthy breakfast.
  • Listen to relaxing music while we go to work.
  • Walk while we practice deep breathing.

Last but not least, there is a detail that we cannot forget. The energy that we project onto others is the same that we will end up receiving. If I offer tension, discomfort, bad gestures and disinterest, the same thing will end up coming to me. The energy that our relationships give off comes from what each one offers to the other. Let us first invest in ourselves to give the best to others.