These Are My Emotional Scars, They Have Made Me Stronger (Kintsukuroi)

Kintsukuroi is a method of healing emotional wounds. It is inspired by the ancient Japanese art of the same name, which repairs broken pottery. The key to the Kintsukuroi method is to expose the scars embellished with gold and silver. They are the best example of your emotional strength.

But, for scars to exist, wounds must heal. Something that many times with our behavior we do not allow. We succumb to temptations that immediately take away the pain, but that ultimately prevent the wound from healing; We want to heal the wounds of others too quickly, without letting them become scab. We are talking about a healing that begins with the recognition of suffering …

Do not frivolize my suffering

Stop telling me it’s not so bad. Don’t tell me that there are people who are worse off than me. What do you know about emotions! You lack empathy, you banalize my pain and underestimate my value and my maturity, the same maturity that will protect me from falling into the networks of comfortable and complacent self-deception.

I am a brave person. You won’t see me fooling myself. I dare to look at my wounds, to heal them, to heal them and to beautify my scars since they are the best proof that I am alive, that I have lived intensely and that I am willing to face all the fears that appear in my intention to continue living fully. I assure you that at least that intention, I will not sell it to the dark.

There is pride in my scars, in part because the time it took to form was taken as a window of learning. My children will not repeat my pain, my friends will not feel alone and judged, the people I love will find in me an example that we should not be afraid of life and that we can overcome pain if we know how.

Have you not suffered?

Look me in the eyes. Look at my scars. I have broken for love. I have felt the same pain that my daughter felt, I have mourned a loss and I have cursed a thousand times the stupid senseless suffering. I look into your eyes and I am empathetic and compassionate. I care what happens to the people around me. Like you…

I have been able to pick up the pieces of my broken soul. I have collected each and every one, clean of toxic emotions such as anger, resentment or resentment. I have collected and arranged them after hitting rock bottom: a task that has helped me understand what happened and the mental representation I made of what happened.

I have analyzed what happened to me and I have done it trying to remove filters, interpretations and deceptions. I did not want to remain anchored in the pain and to achieve it I had to reopen the wound that hurt so much. I thought it was already clean, but I was wrong. I had to clean it up and while I was doing it I was able to learn from what happened.

I realized that I was my worst judge, that I had to understand what happened from love and compassion. I reviewed what that wound meant to me and reviewed the conclusions that I drew hastily and misguided by pain, the same pain that oppressed my soul.

Connect with your emotional strength

I realized that I had to connect with my emotional strength, that I had to learn to analyze people, make decisions, and manage adversity. I learned to distance myself, to think differently, from a new, more constructive perspective. It was then that I understood that action and courage are the engines of emotional growth.

I analyzed my internal dialogue and acquired the ability to differentiate what can be changed from what cannot. I accepted my inability to fight the Titans, but I changed everything that was within my reach. I stopped trying to break down walls and looked for doors. I overcame my fear of the sea and learned to swim. I stopped cursing the river and started building bridges.

I worked, I thought and I was brave… I understood that fears could stop me but not defeat me … and at the end of this process, I saw the beauty they reflected in my scars. Those emotional scars speak of me, speak of my strength, speak of my ability to learn from suffering and to overcome adversity. My scars remind me that I am both fragile and strong. When I look at them I do not see pain, but I see strength and I see everything that I have been able to overcome …

When I see my scars I feel stronger, more secure and perhaps … also happier … Perhaps this is the secret of happiness?

Transform your scars into pedagogy

I am fully determined to share everything I have learned. You don’t have to get burned to understand that fire can hurt you. I normalized what was normal. I helped other people not to feel like weirdos and to accept that their suffering fit the circumstances they were going through at that time, something reserved only for people who live and love intensely.

Today I show my scars without fear, without guilt, without shame. Some of the adversities that I have had to overcome have been fortuitous, the product of sheer chance. Others do not. Without being aware of it, on occasions, I have caused myself to suffer with the decisions that I have made or that I have stopped making, with the people whom I have not analyzed, with the expectations with which I have been dazzled or with the disappointments that I had.

Today I share my sensitivity. Today I build a new reality. A reality where compassion, empathy and love have banished judgments, stereotypes and lies. Today I am part of that new reality, the reality in which I can accept that I have suffered and that my soul has cried; but that not a single one of those tears has been shed in vain since all of them, along with all my scars, have taught me something that I had to learn.

Thanks to the Kintsukuroi, today I am a stronger and more confident person. Thanks to the Kintsukuroi, today I am not ashamed of my scars, my sensitivity, my fragility and my strength.

Some people believe that Kintsukuroi is an ancient Japanese technique for repairing broken pottery, but they are wrong. Kintsukuroi is much more than just a technique; Kintsukuroi is an art, the art of healing emotional wounds.